After yesterday's blow up on FB regarding my drag queen post I've calmed down. I went on FB this morning to see if anything else was said and by golly she deleted her comments (which in turn deleted all the replies) (don't worry I have screen shots) and she unfriended me and blocked me.
She said "I just can't stand by and not be a voice of warning...I'm sorry you have chosen this direction"
Here's the deal...YES YOU CAN. Members of the church have this idea that they MUST stand for truth and righteousness, but they literally don't have to. They literally can keep their mouths shut and just be kind and loving and that will 100% do more good for the "work" than anything they can argue about. They don't actually have the obligation they just have it in their heads that they do. They told themselves that, they didn't hear it from anywhere but them. So the obligation is fake.
You also don't have the right to come at someone and tell them their children are "an enemy to god' or that they are involved in "deviant" behavior or compare them to (paraphrasing here) murderers and abusers. You don't have the right. Now, if you want to go onto your own facebook page and spout all kinds of nonsense then by all means go for it. However you cannot come to someone else's social media post and start spewing hate at their children. You don't get a pass on that one. This person has never even, that I know of, spoken to my children. She had not spoken to me in over a year. So you don't have the obligation or the right.
In Mr. Pachner's 11th grade history class we learned a lot about rights. He said he has the right to swing his fist wherever he wants but the second it comes into contact with another person his rights stop and the other persons start. We don't have the right to hurt people and that's just not physically, it's emotionally and mentally.
Do I wanna hurt her? YUP, I really want to email her directly and rip her a new one. I want to find her son and let him know all the things she said about my kids. I want to email the bishop and let him know what an amazing (insert eyeroll) person he has teaching children and to be sure to watch for traumatized youth in the near future. Heck it would be a dream come true to go to her house and punch her in the face. BUT...I'm not going to do any of those things because I don't have the right and also I'm not gonna stoop. She is also going on her own journey and it's going to be a lot harder than mine.
There was a time when I had a friend that was speaking out against the church and I couldn't handle it. I didn't like the truth that she was saying on her own facebook page and I simply unfriended her. We had a good friendship and had done lots of things together, but because of her journey I couldn't walk with her because I was scared. After I left I emailed her and apologized and have refriended her on social media and we chat quite often now. She's a good person and she is very helpful when it comes to me ranting about my struggles. I love her so much. I needed to step away for my own mental health and now I came back because I understand that she needed someone then too and I bowed out and that was terrible.
So I guess the message I'm trying to get out there, and this wasn't the message I started with when I sat down to type this post it's evolving as I go, is we need to walk with people where they are. If you believe in Christ and his ministry he walked with people where they were. If walking with someone in their struggles is too much for you then it's ok to quietly and kindly step away. No need to "be the voice of warning" be the voice of love. The voice of love always wins and it is what we need more of.
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